9 Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married

Perhaps the proper title should be "why you should not get married yet", anyway you are already here so why don't you read and find out what are the things you should consider before saying "I Do"
I came across this write up on one of my many journeys on Facebook, really don't know who the original author is, so read and get inspired

DON’T GET MARRIED IF….

If you’re not ready to delay gratification when your are angry. To hold your tongue, lower your voice and sometimes wait till the appropriate time, day or even month before you can deal with an issue thoroughly…. don’t get married. Immaturity is the inability to delay gratification.
Marriage is for the mature.

If you’re not ready to leave center stage and allow someone else to become your focus, your study, your muses… don’t get married. Selfish people make very bad spouses. In marriage you don’t lose yourself but your heart has to be big enough to gain someone else. And soon, with God’s blessing: little, crying, diaper soiling, demanding little ones are coming!

If you are not ready, to stand up and calmly deal with meddling in laws as a united front: The opinionated sister, the insensitive uncle, the domineering father, the manner less brother, the nosy aunt….. don’t get married. Boundaries do not exist automatically, they must be created. A good spouse is committed to respectfully stand up for and protect their marriage from meddling relatives. Don’t abandon your spouse to your relatives. It’s betrayal.

If you are not ready to pay bills…. don’t get married. Love does not pay bills. PHNC will not give a waiver because your love is O so strong and your gazes at each other, O so romantic.

If you are not ready to let go of your opposite s*x “best friends” and invest that into your spouse. To like, to laugh, to play, to be silly and to enjoy life with them, above anyone else… don’t get married. Affairs happen because people did not marry their best friends. Someone else holds their heart. Someone else gets them better. Someone else inspires them more. Marry your best friend and cultivate your friendship so that you remain best friends.

If you are not ready to stop competing with the Joneses…. don’t get married. Let the Joneses buy their yatch when you are still walking, and enjoy the walk. Your journeys are different. They may have to cross the oceans but you may be going through the road route. A boat might not do you any good on your journey. You must be ready to pace yourselves: stop competing, stop spending your future before you get there, stop the debt, stop trying to impress people. You must be able to be content. To enjoy your journey without deciding your happiness simply by measuring your progress against other people.

If you are not ready to be an open book. To tell the whole story of your past, deal with the memories, expose the failures and risk rejection…. don’t get married. It is fraud to have someone sign off their life to you without the full details. The past is a touchy and demanding friend. It always shows up in the marriage. It doesn’t enjoy being ignored and the more you snob, the bolder it becomes and the more tantrums it throws. It will mess up the “neat” and “all together lovely” image that you are struggling to maintain.

If you are not ready to let go of your philandering and wild oats farming…. don’t get married. Don’t take somebody’s son or daughter and subject them to your germs, your indiscretions and your chips fungaz. It never ends well. It’s romanticized in the movies, it’s being fronted as the only “realistic” way to stay married and keep the fire burning. But truth be told, the only thing that the fire will burn will be you, your spouse and your children. That family will burn for generations in bitterness, disease, fear, failure, hatred, broken hearts, broken dreams and conniving

Finally, if you are not ready to let go of the adrenalin rush of a risque life and
to settle down…. don’t get married. The great Colombus [who we were told
"discovered" America, Have you ever wondered if the Native Indians who
were in it, knew that it existed :) ] had a diary that was long sought for. People wanted to read about the wild
journeys, the sea tempest, the reckless pirates they fought, the death and the
danger they must have encountered. When it was found, there was great disappointment. Majority of the pages simply had 5 words: “This day, we sailed on.”.

Marriage, like life in general, has many “we sail on” days. You have to learn to
find the thrill in the normal everydayness of it. If you depend on wild romance, all night s*x [ha],
romantic cruises, wild parties, compulsive moves across continents, tempestuous fights and make up
sessions to be happy, you may be disappointed. You have to learn to thrill
in gentle smiles, loving hugs, knowing looks, cozy moments, shared chores,
cute babies, everyday work, dreaming together, praying together and simply
living together. If these things are not thrilling, exciting and satisfying, you will
look for a way out. The “boom twaff” moments are still there, but they are normally punctuations to the
usualness of living. They cannot be your reason for getting married. They
are unsustainable on an everyday basis. The one you choose must be
thrilling to you even in the most mundane of moments. I pray this helps someone. Remember singles, YOU HAVE THE PRIVILEGE OF CHOICE. Never let anyone pressure you into marriage. You are either ready or
you’re not: You decide!. But please don’t marry somebody and then
punish them to live with your childish ways for the rest of their lives :) . A childish baby is cute but a childish adult is extremely frustrating.
Marriage is for the mature and in many ways, even the married, are still being confronted with the demand to grow up day by day
source:facebook